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A male can increase and expand the amount
of ecstasy he can have and at the same time increase the length
of time he is
able to make love so that his partner has a chance of reaching
higher states.
Tantric sex includes ejaculation control. This is an essential
skill to master so that
during lovemaking, instead of ejaculating at the first peak of
energy which a lot of men do, they can learn instead to peak with
that energy
and use techniques to spread that energy throughout the entire
body. Then as the urgency for ejaculation subsides, continue to
make love
again until reaching another peak - much higher than the first
peak and then he can use techniques to peak and spread the energy
again.
As he Continues to do this, reaching higher and higher peaks of
ecstasy and at the same time his beloved is feeling that energy
and is being
warmed up to higher orgasmic states. Ejaculation control is a skill
that can be learned like any other skill. With the guidance of
reading “sexual
secrets for men: a man can learn to enjoy more and more pleasure
without the urgency to come.
In Taoist sexuality writings they say, the woman is like water
and the man is like fire. What normally happens is the water puts
out the fire too quickly, the man is left exhausted and the woman
is frustrated. They say there are in fact nine levels of a woman's
orgasm, nine levels that she goes through before she's fully nourished
sexually before her Shakti, her sexual spiritual energy is fully
awakened. Most women have their first orgasm at level four; the
man ejaculates and the other five levels are rarely reached. We
as conscious men, as extraordinary lovers need to be able to make
love as long as necessary to satisfy our woman and at the same
time reach higher orgasmic states ourselves.
There
are two tantric sex exercises, two techniques that will help with
ejaculation control. One is P.C. Muscle exercises and the other
is the breath. These exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their
orgasmic response, taking more pleasure for herself and to give
more pleasure to her partner. The P.C. muscle is the major muscle
of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so strengthening it increases
sensations of pleasure. The P.C. muscle extends from the base of the spine where it is
connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected
to the pubic bone. A good way to locate the P.C. or love muscle for yourself is that
next time you are urinating try to stop the flow of urination in
mid stream. This will give you the feeling of activating the muscle.
Then later on in your own private space practice tensing and releasing
the muscle several times so that you get the sense of how to do
it you can know. It is a good idea to incorporate these P.C. Muscle
exercises into your daily routine, associating them with some particular
activity you do independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then these
exercises will become habitual and you won't have to set aside
a special time to practice. For example you can practice while
you drive or travel too and from work. No one will know you are
doing it and it can be quite enjoyable. One of our friends in fact,
Helen said she started doing this every day for a month while driving
to work but unfortunately she had to stop because she said the
sensations were getting so strong that she couldn't concentrate
at work because she couldn't think about anything else at work
other than sex and she couldn't wait to get home to her lover. And once a man has a strong P/C he can spread the sexual energy
up and through his body during lovemaking so he can experience
wave after wave of peak pleasure without coming so that he can
make love for as long as he chooses, maybe even hours! Another secret is working with your breath. What most men do as
excitement builds up is hold their breath as they get close to
climax. If men are to reverse the flow of sexual energy the best
way is to breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically. For women to enhance your own ecstasy you can us the P.C. Muscle
and breath exercise also. You can do this at peaks of energy to
spread the orgasmic energy throughout the body. Another way you
can enhance your pleasure is to mentally trace or visualise the
energy running up the inside of the legs through the calf, the
knees and thighs up into the vagina. This is especially good to
do if the mind is wondering off onto other things while making
love; it helps focus the energy. Some women need to focus it rather than to spread it and this
can amplify the orgasmic response you already have and is especially
good for women who find orgasm elusive. What you do is to keep
squeezing the P.C. Muscles without spreading the energy. To squeeze
the muscles and to feel the charge building up and keep squeezing
the P.C. again. It is important to release and bear down as well;
this also acts as a focus. Playing with these elements of breath,
P.C. Muscle, visualisation, as well as movement and sound you can
extend your orgasmic potential to one, two, three or even more
orgasms. All women are capable of extending their orgasmic potential.
The woman's Shakti is unlimited. The Shakti is the sexual spiritual
energy of which women are the custodians. As the Shakti awakens
so does the priestess, the healer, the empowerer and the goddess
of love within.
A
woman's sexual awakening can propel her on a spiritual path.
Men may practice celibacy and achieve spiritual enlightenment,
but according to the Tantric texts women's enlightenment is
facilitated by the electric charge of her orgasmic nature.
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