Romantic
relationships.
Meeting someone so attractive, so beautiful. Your
heart beats like the
rhythm at the races and your knees become Jell-O.
We
all know this feeling of falling in love and seeing the amazing
beauty in another. Couples fall in love blissfully and fall out
of it with such heartache. Love does not have to be so difficult
and as we all have grown to learn, you get out of something what
you put into it. But there is a thin line to keep an eye on here.
Our minds have grown to make us believe that we are “not complete”; “unfulfilled” or “unloved”,
until we meet the love of our life. This was the mind talking
(also known as the Ego), not our soul.
Your
soul knows that you are complete, an extraordinary being, a creations
of God. A creations of God being a creation of love. Innately,
inside of you, you are pure love and our Ego is here to challenge
that. Only when you love like God loves, you will experience
the fulfilled life that we call “heaven”. God loves all equally,
no-one is more special than any other. Which brings us to the “Special
Relationship”.
When
two people catch a glimpse of each other’s beauty, we often get
a feeling that the relationship will fulfil our emptiness and
we clutch onto the other person. Initially you might have extraordinary
times, but the core on which such relationships are built, is
simply your “thought” that you are not complete and that you
NEED another to complete you. It is for this reason that when
such relationships change form (traditionally known as ending
the relationship), that lots of pain is experienced. Release
your partner and all people in your life every moment. This is
one of the principles to fulfilling relationships.
When
you wish the other person their freedom and have faith that the
relationship will serve both of you, for your spiritual growth,
beautiful things come to fruition. Set them free every moment
of the day and have the knowing that the purpose of the relationship
is to create opportunities for you to “show up” and be the most
glorious, most amazing person you know you are. This includes
forgiving, not judging, showing compassion and loving unconditionally.
Relationships
have nothing to do with the other person. Knowing this puts you
in a powerful place where you have control over how you feel
and who you are going to be in the relationship. Initially there
will be bliss and lots of joy, followed by opportunities to work
on your soul. I once read that you ask for God to send you the
perfect partner, but instead he sends you something much better – someone
slightly less than what you expected. See the relationship as
a sacred space where you can grow. Your soul knows that you will
slowly re-member your magnificence and uses romantic relationships
to show us that.
We
see that so often by being told my our loved ones how amazing
we are, just to remind us of our soul’s natural state – perfection.
Perfection does not mean you will not experience heartache, sadness
or some of the less pleasing experiences, but it does mean that
you are wonderful as you are and need not change a thing. Play
fully – every moment of the way. Open your heart and love without
bounds. When you open your heart completely and love another
without conditions, people see the perfect person you are and
get a glimpse of the God within you. Do not be afraid of rejection
of any kind, because remember rejection does not mean anything
is “wrong” with you, it is just a choice the other soul makes
on it’s journey. You are complete and perfect by design and need
not chance a thing about you to be loved – just love others and
you will experience love.
This
lesson places lots of emphasis on judgement. When we find someone
and label the relationship as “Special”, so easily we place expectations
on that person: “Will he call by 6?” or “Will she like what I
got her?”. We place too much emphasis on the “form” of the relationship
and less on the “content”.
A
holy relationship is intimate, has authenticity, and allows freedom
for the souls to grow. You need not be in a Romantic Relationship
in order to experience intimacy. Your best friend allows you
to cry when you wish to do so and he/she does not judge you for
being sad. Consider being that to your Romantic Partner, allowing
them the freedom to be anyway and know they are loved, irrespective
of what space they are in on that day. Are your needs met? You
have no “needs” for you have it all. You are whole and complete,
filled with pure love. Consider that you have no lack and by
doing so, you have no needs. You might have some things you wish
to experience, but experiencing them could be with anyone, not
only your Romantic Partner. Our generation has separated ourselves
from God. “Separated from God” does not mean we are ignoring
the entity called “God”, but instead, it means we have removed
ourselves from the “knowing” that we are all love. That we are
all connected, all beings, all elements and all that exists are
one energy source called “God”, experienced as LOVE.
We
can regain that consciousness by loving every being, every element
and all opportunities that crosses our path – equally.
Authors
Details: Justin Luyt facilitates a Spiritual Discussion
Group for Teens in Dallas, TX.
In addition he talks to teens on subject matter that deeply touches their lives
and shares valuable transformational toolsThe
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