Free Relationship Advice - 10 Tips
Relationships hold a high
place for most of us, especially women. We want great relationships
with clear communication, empathy, understanding, mutual trust
and friendship and fantastic sex - we want DYNAMITE RELATIONSHIPS.
But what do we get much of
the time? Relationships loaded with communication problems,
irritability, conflict, misunderstandings, blame, hurt and
anger! If you have a relationship like this you know what
I mean. Stress grows and settles in your muscles and organs
and you develop fibromyalgia, migraines, stomach problems,
anxiety and depression.
Loyalty, tradition and fear
of failure demand we stay. We try again and again to fix the
problems, ignore the fighting, and say the same thing for
the tenth time with different words. Do you identify with
this situation? Perhaps you stuff resentment and deny personal
needs for the sake of the relationship. You experience little
explosions on a daily basis and feel constantly on edge. Then
it's Monday morning and we play pretend again for another
week.
Walking through these relationship
mine fields is hazardous to your health.
The longer that relationship
stress goes on, the longer your immune system is shut down,
and the longer your muscles and organs are exposed to dangerous
stress hormones. You are at risk. If you have an illness,
it will get worse. If you have no illness yet, you will likely
get one.
What can you do? Whatever
you do, don't wait! Magical thinking tells us that it will
change on its own. It won't. You have to change. Your health
and well being depend on it. But the good news is, you can
make a difference. It is not necessarily a lost cause.
Here are the top ten tips
for building DYNAMITE RELATIONSHIPS.
1. Get to know yourself, inside
and out. Know what you want and need. Know what you like.
Determine your values and priorities. Write them down. Believe
in yourself and don't compromise.
2. Choose healthy relationships
from the start. Don't go out looking for a red dress and settle
for beige! Don't be desperate - be choosey!
3. Move slowly and develop
a strong foundation. Don't get enmeshed in an
emotional relationship before you see the hazards and recognize
the danger.
4. Nurture good relationships.
Take the first step to schedule a get together or just chat
on the phone.
5. Develop excellent communication
and conflict resolution skills, and use them. This in itself
can drastically change a relationship.
6. Develop assertiveness skills.
Passive people ignore their needs and get walked on. Aggressive
people walk on others to get what they want. Assertive people
learn to get their needs met without walking on anyone.
7. Learn to really listen.
Listen with body, mind and spirit.
8. Be self-aware. When a misunderstanding
happens, check it out. Be sure you have all the information.
Determine what part you played in the situation.
9. Develop intuition and body
awareness so you can identify relationship stress in your
body immediately, as it is happening. Then deal with it appropriately
before it gets deadly.
10. Lose the denial. If something
isn't right, deal with it. Don't play pretend and wake up
too late. All relationships have misunderstandings. It's how
we deal with them that counts.
If you find yourself struggling
with your relationships, new or long term, don't wait! The
window of opportunity for change is narrow. Anger and resentment
destroy relationships, even good ones. Life and Relationship
Coaching can help you reach your goals and develop the DYNAMITE
RELATIONSHIPS you desire.
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