You
talk when you cease to be at peace with your thoughts...
Kahlil Gibran
You
often talk when there is no reason to talk. You are just thinking
aloud. Your thoughts put so much pressure on the real YOU that
by talking you release this pressure. You sound your thoughts
onto other people. You can then see or validate what you are thinking
by the reaction of others.
Have
you ever asked yourself why you actually talk? Besides the obvious
- communication to pave your way through life, you most likely
talk too much.
Now
I know that is a bold statement and could even be considered rude,
so read on and learn a little more about yourself.
Talking
is expressing your thoughts.
When
you think you are really responding to the stimulus of the physical
world. You thoughts are created from what is around you. Those
thoughts are coloured and biased depending on what YOUR past has
shown you. Remember your experience of the past is your truth
but not THE truth.
The
thoughts that you do have, can be confusing. They are not always
clear because you interpret everything through a cloudy filter.
In other words what you think is biased, you cannot see the whole
and because of the way you respond to what is around you, those
same thoughts create inner conflict.
In
turn this creates more thoughts. Sometimes you have too many thoughts
to cope with and they turn into emotions.
In
order to resolve this conflict you express what you are thinking.
So
you talk!
Of
course the list of ways in which you could express yourself is
endless. However almost everyone talks.
Here
are two ways you use talking to express what you think.
1.
When you offer your opinion it can be a sign you are not at peace
with your thoughts. The stronger the urge the more conflict you
have. Of course your opinion can subtly enter almost every conversation
you have. The extreme of this is when you argue and force your
opinion onto the person you are talking too. You are attempting
to change the other person who is in fact your reflection! When
your reflection changes, you think that your line of thinking
is correct because it is reflected in those people around you.
An
example would be religion. Religion works on faith. In order to
have faith you are required to believe without proof. This is
difficult and when others around you do not believe in any religion
or your religion - faith can be harder to have.
When
you convince your neighbour that your religion is right - you
are trying to work on your refection. When your reflection (the
people around you) also believe in your faith - it is convincing
for you and as such easier to adopt the faith.
This
is why you are more comfortable around others who are like you.
2.
You are thinking something and you wish to convey the thought
but you can't bring yourself to clearly express it. You talk and
make conversation yet you are not saying what you want. You use
the conversation to manoeuvre into position. This is done unconsciously.
Lets
say you want to ask someone out on a date. You can't bring yourself
to do this because you fear rejection. So you talk. You say stuff
that makes what we call 'small talk'. This has hidden intention.
The intent of the small talk is to get to a hint that will allow
your original thought expression out via talk, with out any chance
of rejection. In other words you are waiting for a cue that suggests
'YES if you ask me out I will say YES!'
Either
way, when you are at peace you listen much more than you speak.
The cliche that says you have two ears and one mouth suggests
that you listen twice as much as you talk. This is a good rule
of thumb. As you progress in your personal development you will
find that the desire to talk diminishes rapidly.
I am not suggesting that you do not talk! I am alerting you to
the fact that;
1.
It is not a necessity
2.
Most talk is excess.
There
is much to be learned in silence. Like what is going on in your
head? From listening to yourself great progress in the field of
your own personal development can be made.
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