(Enligtenment
Introduction)
(Enlightenment
Pt 1)
(Enlightenment
Pt 2)
The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where
everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.
E. E. Cummings
What you love is a sign from your higher self of what you
are to do.
Sanyana Roman
People often ask for guidance. "What should I do?"
is a typical question. The reason you ask is because you
do what you think you should do, to fit in with others and
gain their approval. The action to conform is driven by
your emotional reaction to what happens around you. All
is not lost because you have a inbuilt guidance system that,
just like magic, literally makes you love what you are made
to do. The trick is to separate what you love from the emotional
reaction of "this is what I should do" You do
this by following the path of enlightenment or put simply,
personal development.
Freedom
From Desire
Part
of the enlightenment process is to be free of desire. Desire
is your emotional pull towards a preference. The emotion you
experience makes you move towards certain things irrespective
of whether they are good or bad for you. The point is that
you are making your decision based on an intense feeling that
appears to be the 'right' thing. Your emotions however often
make you do things that you would not normally do if you were
thinking clearly.
Freedom from desire is often also expressed as freedom from
the material world. I mean that you base your life on getting
more possessions or becoming a success. The rationale is
that if you don't have as much or better, you are not as
good. This is incorrect thinking that is clouded with emotion.
When you are free from the material world you can still
have whatever you want however you are liberated from the
slavery of working for possessions just to keep pace with
your colleagues.Here
is a simple example.
You see that the neighbors have a new wide screen plasma television and theatre
system. You know that Gary your neighbor earns less than you do so you feel
that you better get one too. You spend many thousands of dollars on a similar
system when your goal for the year was something altogether different. It
is an emotional decision that you easily justify by telling yourself that you
work hard and you also deserve a new television.
If
you were to see the thoughts that created the emotion which in
turn made you buy the television they run along these lines;
"Hey how does Gary afford that? I can't afford that and he earns less than
me"
"What will people think if I don't have one?"
"People will think that I am not a success"
"John across the road will think Gary is doing better than me"
and so on.
The
important part is that there is nothing wrong with the purchase.
The purchase by itself is neither positive or negative. Enlightenment
allows you to understand why you are buying the television
and gives you the clarity to decide for transparent reasons
NOT hidden reasons. You don't need to work harder just because
you need to keep pace with your peers.
Here
is a more complex example and is typical of many people. A
client of mine is driven to succeed in business and with women.
This emotional and unconscious drive creates pressure and stress.
When describing a recent relationship breakup with a woman
his description sounded like he just lost a possession not
a relationship. An analysis of the 'why' behind his drive to
succeed in these areas leads to the revelation that he believes
his father will love him more if he is a success.
Is
this true? The answer is no it is not true.
When
pressed for examples, the best example he could muster was
an observation of his fathers behavior during a particular
event. My clients observation was very brief and heavily laced
with assumptions that were both fantasy and biased. This is
what your mind creates when you do not think clearly. Remember
it's not easy to see that your vision is obscured unless you
look at the results you have created in your life.
When
you are not clear your world is biased and emotional. You cannot
see what is the truth. This particular gentleman may miss the
opportunity of a truly successful relationship just because
he is looking for a trophy instead of love or compatibility.
In
the quest for liberation from the material world there is a
major mistake to be avoided. This mistake is predominant but
not exclusive to the spiritual community.
When
you think clearly you will be free from emotional desire and
follow a path that allows expression. Everyone needs to express
themselves to be spiritually healthy. Healthy expression means
to pursue your preferences instead of your emotional needs.
This is impossible without fixing something. It is your thinking
that needs to be corrected in order to eliminate your emotional
need and allow space for your true expression to manifest.
The
mistake you need to avoid is the opposite emotional reaction
which often appears to be the solution. That mistake is to
give up material possessions altogether. Many people shun the
material world in the mistaken belief that;
1.
You become a better person.
2. You are free from emotional desire.
3. You are now on the spiritual path.
4. That's what God wants you to do.
5. Material possessions are bad or evil.
All
of this is grossly incorrect. When you shun the material world
you are just experiencing the opposite emotional reaction to
the exact same situation described above. Material possessions
are simply and only material possessions. You need to learn
to see them clearly as such.
When
you shun the material world it means you are going left, driven
by emotion to reject possessions. When you are caught in the
material world you are going right, driven by emotion to acquire
possessions.
Your
freedom and the key to a great life is in the middle. Neither
left or right. Free from the emotional force that drives your
life. Free to follow your path of preference. You need to master
the material world instead of being a slave to it or conversely
closing your eyes to it.
The
hardest part in dealing with your emotions is that they block
your ability to see what you think. The easiest, fastest and
most thorough way to improve your life and master your emotions
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