Last
month you learnt about gratitude, being thankful for what you
have. That is an attitude or a frame of mind.
There
is much more you can do with the right frame of mind.
You
may wish to change the way you are. Many people are in this situation.
You are not quite satisfied with something about your life and
wish to be different.
This
is easier than it sounds but there are some complexities to overcome.
The
key to change, to become something other than what you are today,
is to adopt the perspective of who you want to be. Your thoughts
create your world so you need to think from the perspective of
the new you.
You
need to be the new you. Right now.
This
is very different to thinking that you will become something in
the future. You
can never become, by having the opinion that you will, in the
future "be". At some stage you must change your perspective
and be that thing, now. In other words you need to shift into
the present and say "I am"
So,
why wait till you are more ready. Why not just "be"
right now this very minute?
Sounds
easy but lets look at this in a more practical light with an example.
You
are an inactive person and you want to be a fit person.
So
here are some steps to take.
1.
Research -
What
does fit mean to you? You want to be a fit person then what does
a fit person do everyday. How do they behave and what do you have
to do? What sort of activity will make you fit, how much time
do you need to spend and what sort of effort is required.
The
quality of this research determines the rest of your journey.
2.
Plan -
Plan
what you are going to do. Write down the steps that are required.
This helps you stick to your changes.
3.
Decide -
Decide
to do. Decide to act on what you will do to be a fit person. ie:
Exercise 4 times a week and avoid junk food 6 days out of 7.
4.
Be -
Become
a fit person right now! This very minute. You know what a fit
person does, you have a plan, you have decided to act, so now
you only have to be. So be!!!
That's
it - you are now a fit person untill you DON'T do what's required.
Don't
laugh - your problem lies in the concept of time. The
first minute of being a fit person is difficult because you have
no history to draw on. When you look backwards you cannot see
yourself as a fit person. The second day becomes easier and the
third week of doing what a fit person does, builds your history
to a point where you can see what you are and feel more comfortable
in your new role.
This
however means that you use your own history to define what you
are. You were not fit yesterday so you are not fit today. This
is not really true, you can be different today. You can subscribe
to this way of thinking if you want or you can discard this theory
completely. The main problem with this way of doing things is
the powerful pull that the weight of your past has over you.
When
you drive your car, which way do you look? I bet you don't look
in the rear mirror to guide your path forward. You look forward
to move forward. The concept here is the same.
You
are driving your life.
Look
forward and become what you want now! This power is enhanced when
you learn to focus and concentrate. There
is an easy way to make your transition to the new you.
Do
things in steps.
Now
this at first glance sounds like a contradiction - however it
will make your transition a lot easier if you break your change
into steps.
It's
always easy to to things in steps. So rather than moving from
well entrenched coach potato to supreme olympic champion in a
single bound, break the task into bite sized pieces.
This
is important because when you first start to look forward you
have a tendancy to glance over your shoulder often. By taking
smaller steps the canyon you have just jumped seems a lot smaller
and safer, alleviating any potential fears.
Remember
it's up to you! You can do anything. Find out how in the Key
To Life Manual
